About 10 years ago I was lying under a bench press in the
basement gym of my parent’s home when I felt a lump about the size of a golf
ball. I was not the least bit alarmed – lumps are normal when living a very
active lifestyle. It wasn’t until about six months later when I was in Houston,
Texas having a completely unrelated surgery that I found out that little lump
was in fact a tumor and I had a very advanced level of stage three Non-Hodgkin’s
Disease Lymphoma. My life changed
forever with that diagnosis, as did my approach to marketing, relationships and
sales. Below are a few lessons I’ve learned by joining the 10-year survivor
club.
When given the
opportunity, laugh: Many of the worst business decisions that I have
witnessed being made came at juncture where someone could have taken a moment,
a breath, and laughed at the situation and tried to regain composure. Often
times, business people take themselves and the situations they are involved
with too seriously and forget about the reason they went into business.
Suddenly the bills pile up, health insurance costs rise, and your best-selling
product goes off the market. There is nothing funny about any of that. But,
there is something funny about life and no matter how tough it gets – if you’re
reading this – you’re still breathing. There is someone who loves you and there
is something to laugh about. Take a moment to walk outside breathe in deep and
be thankful for the minutes you have been blessed with. Don’t let the little
things throw off your game, find the humor in that spilled cup of coffee, power
outage or employee fiasco. A little laughter can lighten the mood and
re-energize your situation.
Live in a world of
mutual admiration: I have a close friend named Dr. Bruce. He is one of the
most fascinating and inspiring people I have ever met. He has traveled the
globe; discovered insects that no one ever knew existed, and worked with my
childhood hero – Jane Goodall. One day
Dr. Bruce and I were talking and I told him how much I appreciate his
friendship and how much I respect his work. He responded by complimenting me on
a few traits that I carry and then said, “David, I think you and I live in a
world of mutual admiration.” His statement was very true and it’s a world that
I have found quite beneficial to live in. In fact, I consider it a lifestyle
choice where I choose to find the best qualities in people, expect the best
from them, and do not expect to get hurt by them. It has resulted in countless
relationships that I hold close to my heart and yes, a few heartbreaks. People
often tell me that I need to prepare for the worst, or if a business deal goes
bad that I should have been more realistic. I choose to ignore that advice and
instead believe that most people are great, faithful and caring. Very seldom am
I let down. When I apply this lifestyle choice to business decisions and
marketing I have found that my business relationships become deeper longer
lasting, and my connections more amicable to introducing me to other folks I
may need to network with. I try to tell people what I appreciate about them and
I have yet to have offering a compliment come back to haunt me.
Be nice, and honest, tomorrow may not come: I was almost
20 when the first needle that was delivering a toxic dose of chemo pierced the
bulging vein on my left hand. It stung and felt like that first treatment would
never end – but, eventually it did. The following week my oncologist informed
me that that first dose was working well and he suspected I would survive.
Until that point I really did not know. My parents only knew that their
youngest son was full of cancer and his and their lives were about to change
forever. It was underneath that bag of chemicals that I had time to think about
and decide how this experience would affect my life. The decision I made was
that I would do my best to always offer value to any relationship I entered
into (business or personal) and that since tomorrow may not come, I better work
my hardest to make sure that today is memorable. I apply those lessons today to
my work life and personal life. Always
be honest and always be nice, tomorrow might not come and you never know who
the person knows that you’re about to lie to.
Cancer was one of the best things that has ever happened
to me. At 19 years old, I was able to learn lessons that nothing else in life
could have taught me. Lucky for me I survived and am still surviving and just
hope that the three lessons above help you with your next business pursuit.
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