I grew up in a community much like the Windham and
Raymond areas, minus a population of approximately 20,000 people. The small towns
of Nortonville and Winchester in northeast Kansas were filled with individuals much
like one would find here - those who are hardworking, innovative, caring and
have their share of important leaders.
While growing up, one very prominent leader within my
home town was a respected and well-loved doctor, Dr. Francis Huston.
All through my four years of high school, I worked for
Dr. Huston, cleaning his medical office every evening after school. During the
summer months, from time to time, I would also help his wife, Zetta, at their home.
It was at this point that I learned a little about gracious sophistication and
integrity; and I began to admire the Hustons. In fact, the thought crossed my
mind to one day name my first daughter, Zetta. It sounded so cultured and I had
hoped that the grace I had associated with that name would live on in my child.
More about the name later.
One evening, towards the end of my senior year and while
cleaning the office, Dr. Huston offered to give me a sports scholarship to his
alma mater, Tarkio College in Missouri. I was bit of a track star then, placing
third at the state competitions in the 100 meter dash. The scholarship would
have paid most of my education. I declined his offer.
Instead of belittling, demeaning or shaming me for my
decision, he responded like the principled leader and person he was. He
accepted my response with a smile.
I am now reading Stephen R. Covey’s book,
“Principle-Centered Leadership” and have discovered Dr. Huston lived his life
based upon principles that included deep values and beliefs.
Dr. Huston believed in me and saw a potential I had not
yet discovered in myself.
Covey states in his book about principle-center leaders:
“(They) seek to believe in the unseen potential…creating a climate for growth
and opportunity.” Covey further states, “It is the self-centered leader that
believes they have the answers and feel they must impose them on others rather
than realizing the answer lies within each of us.”
I suspect Dr. Huston may have thought I would eventually
regret my decision (I did), that I would have to work unnecessarily hard because
of my decision (I did); but that I would find it in myself to grow into the
person I was meant to become - despite my decision (I’m getting there).
Although it may have taken a while, his belief in me took hold and eventually
became my own.
As for the name Zetta; for whatever reason, children did
not make it into my life. The good news is a great-granddaughter of the Hustons’
was named after my doctor’s wife. And, it just so happens, that young girl is
also my great-niece.
It never ceases to amaze me, that despite our
imperfections, if one can relax and sprinkle in a little belief in others and in
self, just how perfect life has the potential of turning out.
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