Friday, March 16, 2018

Insight: Celebrating milestones by Lorraine Glowczak

I was living in South Portland five years ago, when in March 2013 the first edition of The Windham Eagle newspaper hit the stands and mailboxes. Although I missed out when this positive and solution-based news source made its debut in the Windham and Raymond communities, that doesn’t prevent me from celebrating our anniversary with all of you and with our fellow business owners who are reaching milestones of their own. (Be sure to see our Anniversary Pages, 11 – 14, in our print version of the newspaper. Support local businesses!) 
When we initially think of anniversaries, our first thought is on relationships and weddings. And
although the celebration of human bonds is incredibly important, so are businesses and the milestones they reach. In fact, organizations hold a lot of similarities to successful human relationships. The important life skills that contribute to both prospering enterprises and flourishing relationships include the following:

The ability to communicate effectively:

Everyone knows how to talk, but communication is a whole different animal. The ability to listen without interruption and the knack to speak with clarity and intention are not only saving points in a marriage but also among business partners, employees and customers. I would venture to say we all have work to do in this area; as effective communication does not come easily. However, without trying one’s hand at productive communication, things can go downhill, fast. One way to prevent the downhill spiral comes in the next skill.


This one can be summed up in 11 golden words, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” To attain that Golden Anniversary, we all hope to someday reach in whatever area of life, the flair for respect comes in most handy! Respect can also occur in the next ability.


We all have our own set of agendas and will do what it takes to get our way. But in doing so, we can miss out on something grandeur. It doesn’t have to be “my way or the highway” – great things, great relationships and great business often have compromised only to find that in doing so, they found a “higher way” of doing things. Stephen Covey stated it best when he said, “It’s easy to say ‘no’ when there is a deep ‘yes’ burning inside.” 

Owning a thriving business takes commitment and determination through the good times and the bad. And much like marriages – organizations should celebrate their achievements to see how far they’ve come and to recognize the grit it took to be where they are today – whether you’ve been in business for a year or 150 years. Celebrating the fact that you are STILL here and making an impact – in your own life and in others’, helps us all to see just how much we already have and how lucky we are. I, for one, feel lucky to be a part of The Windham Eagle family.

Advice Chief - Your handshake reveals a lot by Jeff “Chief” Urbaniak

We shake hands often and usually quite unconsciously. Whether it’s a few times a day or a few times a week, we do it when meeting someone or getting reacquainted with someone.
A handshake can tell quite a bit about a person. There are many signals given during that brief handshake. Either you’re silently communicating you’re supremely confident, utterly secure
or convincingly reassuring; or maybe you’re hinting that you’re not a confident person, are insecure, or don’t care much about being in the other person’s presence.

When you shake hands with someone, you should want them to be left with the impression of strength, confidence, power, or of someone in total control of their life. If you aren’t sure about the nature of your handshake have a friend tell you.

How do you make it a “good” handshake? Make it firm. You can always use the other hand to reassuringly grip both your hand and that of your boss, colleague, client, or friend. But don’t overdo it and leave them with crushed fingers.

Handshakes are very formal, old fashioned things. Forget about the high fives, the Masonic twitches or anything gangster-style. Stick to the traditional style of handshake. Good hand shakers are the ones who proffer their hand first as well as shaking well. They exude confidence by announcing their name and offering their hand at the same time thus showing keenness, friendliness, a relaxed, confident approach, and a general air of assertiveness. They also look you in the eye and say your name back to you. 

People like hearing their own name and it’s a memory enhancer for you while you are restating their name. In some places of employment, hiring agents have been known to include their perception of a person’s handshake as part of their evaluation during a job interview or when deciding to promote someone to a leadership position.

So, take some time and find out more about your style of handshake. If it’s giving off the wrong signals about you, then practice a new handshake with someone you trust. Let your handshake
be an indicator of who you are and/or a promoter of your leadership capability.

Friday, March 9, 2018

Insight: Living right on target in 24 hours by Lorraine Glowczak

Recently, someone shared with me that she was once in a near fatal auto accident. But “luck” was on her side and she walked away with only a few scratches. She stated that what she realized about the experience was, unlike the typical realizations most have in such near-death circumstances – one of panic at not having accomplished what one has set out to do in life – was not her response. She realized from the accident that she did not have any regrets. She was living her life right on target.

“Wow,” I thought. “I don’t know if I could say that about my own life.”

Admittedly, I am a lover of many things and even if I lived past the age of 100, I would not be able to get to it all done. I would need more than one lifetime to do everything I want to do and experience. I suspect that when my time arrives, I may not have full-blown regret, but I might be a bit bummed that the show is over.

I guess it is a good thing, then, that I have landed into the role of journalist and writer. I get the
opportunity to meet and write about interesting people. In doing so, I get to live life vicariously through them. But more importantly, it helps me to focus more clearly upon the direction at which I choose to shoot my own arrows.

In this week’s publication, I met up with fellow co-worker, Dave Harrigan ( as well as many family and friends of Catherine Bishop as they shared memories of her life ( One was the true adventurer, exploring the many corners of the world, while perfecting his artistic skills. The other stayed put in one place, carrying out her own creative and active life.  The interesting thing is, neither seemed to have missed out – both living their life happily and right on their personal target.

What I discovered in my interviews with both of these individuals is that although their arrows may have contained different colors and traveled at different speeds, the bull’s eye of all things significant was the same.

A little faith with a lot of action.
Dave often donned his wings and took flight in the direction of strange places. It took a little faith to charter unknown territory, especially the faith to act. Catherine was in action mode all of her life, much of which was given to the needs of others. In doing so, she relied on a little faith that all would work out just fine.

Being fully human
At moments, Dave thought he needed to settle down and grow up, but in accepting where his life took him, he reached a pivotal moment in his life that helped him focus his skills that contributed to his success. With Catherine, what you saw was what you got. And that’s what people loved the most about her.

Recognizing the gift before them
Both Dave and Catherine honored their greatest gifts – their families, putting them first.

Although Dave’s arrow may have taken some twists and turns while Catherine’s was more horizontal, they both aimed at life full steam ahead – without any regrets.

As for me, I’ve been to Hong Kong, Japan and New York City and played slot machines in Las Vegas. All in less than 24 hours.